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Although I agree with your points factually Paula, I always find the whole “optimal time for a child” argument as a troubling reason to push along a relationship. After two years together, it’s reasonable for the OP’s girlfriend to want to know what the future might hold. However, if the desire is mostly around having children – as opposed to the relationship being strong and healthy – there’s something screwed about that. They sound like they need to figure out how to communicate disagreement with each other in more healthy ways before pressing for marriage and children (if that’s the desired end goal.) And you know, whenever I hear all the baby talk, I think of the numerous children out there who would love to be adopted. Why does it so often seem to come down to “you better find a partner and get him/her to commit” before you’re “clock runs out”? It just seems to me that a hell of a lot of people rush their relationships to have children, and then find themselves bloody miserable a few years down the road. In fact, so much so in some extreme cases that the same children end up abused and neglected, removed from their homes, and themselves adoption cases. I spent 4 years working with children in such circumstances, and it made me pause greatly around the whole issue of children and biological clocks. If you have just enough dysfunction and craziness within a relationship, it can seriously impact the lives not only of the partners, but their children. And anyone who believes that only drug addicts and lowlifes abuse their children is just indulging a stereotype that doesn’t hold water. <a href="https://russian-women.jouwstartonline.nl/">Dilemma For Guys With Tight Dating Game</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.toplinkjes.com/">Don&rsquo;t Even Bother Veryifying Her Phone Number</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.handigestart.nl/">Types Of Dating Game</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.sellerconnect.de/">Are You A Real Man?</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.koalahilfe.de/">Balancing Emotion and Detachment in Game</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.jougids.nl/">The Danger of Rationalization in Decision-Making</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.vindhier.com/">How Important Is The Attractiveness Of Your Wingman?</a></p> <p><a href="https://russian-women.vindnu.com/">Why You Don&rsquo;t Get Laid</a></p>